Many of my human sexuality students and clients kind of make jokes about not having enough sex. Can you guess which gender this comes from most? Of course, it’s the guys! Well, gentlemen, let me tell you in just a few words, that this is normal. It is not just you. Most men want a [...]
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For Better, For Worse: Thought of the day, Sex Series
Posted in Uncategorized on July 28, 2010 | Leave a Comment »
For Better, For Worse: Trust and Fear
Posted in Uncategorized on July 23, 2010 | Leave a Comment »
“I am not your abuser!” Do these words ring true for some of you. At times, it seems like we are being charged with the crimes of others in our spouses past. Why do you think this happens? What can we do about it? How can we develop the kind of trust that should be [...]
For Better, For Worse-Sex regarding old baggage/unresolved issues
Posted in Uncategorized on July 19, 2010 | Leave a Comment »
Today, we will discuss unresolved issues and baggage that are brought in to the relationship. Some of these relationships will bring in good ideas and behaviors and some will not. Let’s start with moms and dads. Ever heard the statement, “You will marry your parents.” Scary thought for most of us, but so true, many [...]
For Better, For Worse-Sex with regards to anger and withholding
Posted in Uncategorized on July 16, 2010 | Leave a Comment »
Today, let’s talk about how anger, arguments etc. can result in withholding sex from your partner. How does this affect your sex life? It may seem obvious but sometimes, it’s exactly the obvious that needs to be said. We need to have a wake up call. This may be more for the ladies but men [...]
For Better, For Worse-Bored with sex?
Posted in Uncategorized on July 12, 2010 | Leave a Comment »
“Whenever I want anything other than missionary, she thinks I am a pervert.” A man said this and I wondered why this is the case. Was it due to her history/baggage with someone else? Was it really that he was a pervert? Was it because her parents raised her to believe very rigidly? Was it [...]
For better, For Worse-Sex 2
Posted in Uncategorized on July 8, 2010 | Leave a Comment »
In order to first say what can make your sex lives better, we need to identify what the issues are. Below is a long list of things that can make sex uncomfortable or uninviting to one or both partners: Can’t get an erection? No moisture in vagina? Self grooming; smells? Weight can cause pain to [...]
For Better For Worse-Overcoming Adversity–SEX
Posted in Uncategorized on July 6, 2010 | Leave a Comment »
Ok guys, let’s be honest here. Most of us think a lot about sex, right? It starts with boys very young and it appears that it never stops. For girls, it may begin a little later, but then it goes on for a long time, stops and then starts up again. Sex and sexuality can [...]
For Better, For Worse: Expectations 2
Posted in Uncategorized on June 29, 2010 | Comments Off
Wow! I can’t tell you how many times we hear in the counseling center that expectations are not met in most relationships. Is it that most of us have expectations that are unrealistic? Are we expecting our spouses to be God? Are we expecting our spouses to just know? It seems like we want them [...]
For Better, For Worse-Anger in Marriage
Posted in Uncategorized on June 22, 2010 | Comments Off
When we consider our emotions, we can look at our spouses and say that anger shows more than almost any other emotion. Why is that? Does it come from our parents? Does it come from our personalities? Maybe both, but let’s consider another possibility. Keep in mind that anger is a secondary emotion. This means [...]
Overcoming Adversity-Grief Continues
Posted in Uncategorized on June 10, 2010 | Comments Off
There are so many differences for how grief is processed. One girl told me she would never go to a support group as it would be too depressing and she does not want to talk about too much. Another girl asked me to find a group for her that dealt with “sisters losing sisters”. This [...]
